In careers counselling, we often have to dig deeper than just helping someone find a job.
In fact, the more people insist that they will do ‘anything’, the more inclined they are to fail when they gain the position they have applied for.
The realities are that our deepest career desires are actually the children of far deeper emotions than the surface concerns like remuneration and position.
Neurologically and psychologically we need to fulfil a destiny and ‘inner calling’ to be people of consequence and to live a life of meaning.
We ultimately want to do something that matters.
We may fool ourselves with the outward ‘chattels’ of success but in reality, we want to know that what we do actually matters.
Many commentators talk about the 2 percent who look outside the box, look at life in a different way and dare to face themselves and seek their ‘authentic selves’.
They dig deep and try to work out what it is that they want. A difficult task and yet what is more important?
‘Since when did anyone know what they want?’Morgan Freeman (as God in movie: Bruce Almighty)
Parker Palmer also talks about this in his book, ‘Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation’.
Most people we honour do ‘it’ differently and went against popular ideas of what is possible to achieve great things. This is why it is important to choose people as companions on the journey who are a positive influence and going places in their lives.
Time and the compounding interest of experience must also be allowed to do their work. Innovators come in all shapes and sizes and are often value their own creativity and the ability to act quickly on an idea.
Many worked with the passion and love for their work and not for the outward respect of others. It was this authenticity of the ‘artist’ that then connected with the hearts of others.
I experienced this personally in my songwriting. I wrote much better songs when I stopped trying to write ‘hits’ and wrote what I felt. When I present ‘me’ instead of what I think others want or what I think I want others to perceive me as it is then that I succeed.
It is important to take a step back from reacting and to allow yourself the space to reflect, consider and dig deep. Reflect for yourself on where your considered actions and responses have brought peace and more beneficial outcomes.
If I asked what people want….a faster horse, the model T would have never happened.Henry Ford.
Personally, I have faced many challenges in my career. I have disabilities that prevent me from being your standard classroom student and I worked hard to stay ahead. I now know there are no shortcuts to anywhere worth going!
Do not seek to have more….seek to be more.Pope Benedict XXVI
Now is your time, as we fast approach the end of another calendar year, to ask yourself what you did differently. What career monsters did you slay that had taunted you up until this point and what would you like to do differently for the coming year?
I can support you to find your career purpose and get you back on track for 2020 in the coming months. Don’t leave it until it’s too late!
Thanks for reading! I’d love you to share your thoughts in the comment space below!
Dave is an Adult Educator, Speaker and Youth leader living in Western Sydney, Australia. He has Diplomas in Business and Training, a Bachelors Degree in Adult Education, Vocational and Workplace Training and a Masters of Education with a major in Career Development. He has lived with Tourette’s Syndrome, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and Anxiety Disorders since an early age, you can read his story online. He is married with 6 children. He is a passionate coach and mentor to young people especially in the vocational guidance and career development areas. Dave is a professional member of the Career Development Association of Australia and has authored a course on Living with Tourette’s which you can study and purchase online through his website – www.davebrebner.com.