In careers counselling, we often have to dig deeper than just helping someone find a job. In fact, the more people insist that they will do ‘anything’, the more inclined they are to fail when they gain the position they have applied for.
The realities are that our deepest career desires are actually the children of far deeper emotions than the surface concerns like remuneration and position. Neurologically and psychologically we need to fulfil a destiny and ‘inner calling’ to be people of consequence and to live a life of meaning.
We ultimately want to do something that matters.
We may fool ourselves with the outward ‘chattels’ of success but in reality, we want to know that what we do actually matters.
Many commentators talk about the 2 per cent who look outside the box, look at life in a different way and dare to face themselves and seek their ‘authentic selves’. They dig deep and try to find out what they want. A difficult task, and yet what is more important?
‘Since when did anyone know what they want?’
Morgan Freeman (as God in movie: Bruce Almighty)
Parker Palmer also talks about this in his book, ‘Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation’.
Most people we honour do ‘it’ differently and went against popular ideas of what is possible to achieve great things. This is why it is important to choose people as companions on the journey who are a positive influence and going places in their lives. Time and the compounding interest of experience must also be allowed to do their work. Innovators come in all shapes and sizes and often value their own creativity and the ability to act quickly on an idea.
Many worked with the passion and love for their work and not for the outward respect of others. It was this authenticity of the ‘artist’ that then connected with the hearts of others. I experienced this personally in my songwriting. I wrote much better songs when I stopped trying to write ‘hits’ and wrote what I felt. When I present ‘me’ instead of what I think others want or what I think I want others to perceive me as it is, then I succeed.
It is important to take a step back from reacting and to allow yourself the space to reflect, consider and dig deep. Reflect for yourself on where your considered actions and responses have brought peace and more beneficial outcomes.
If I asked what people want….a faster horse,
the model T would have never happened.
Henry Ford.
Personally, I have faced many challenges in my career. I have disabilities that prevent me from being your standard classroom student, and I worked hard to stay ahead. I now know there are no shortcuts to anywhere worth going!
As we fast approach the end of another calendar year, now is your time to ask yourself what you did differently. What career monsters did you slay that had taunted you up until this point and what would you like to do differently for the coming year?
Remember that being different is our biggest asset and we don’t have to be like everyone else. If you need a keynote speaker or presenter on neurodiversity, private message me today to book your next presentation.
Thanks for reading! I’d love you to share your thoughts in the comment space below!
Dave Brebner.
www.davebrebner.com
As a neurodiverse public speaker and presenter, Dave Brebner specialises in using educational neuroscience to explore pathways for professionals and engage in inclusive discussions for diverse audiences. Living with Tourette’s Syndrome, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, ADHD, and Anxiety Disorders since an early age, he is married with six children and one grandchild. He recently added a Master of Educational Neuroscience to his qualifications to further deepen his understanding of the neurodiverse mind, including his qualifications in Trades & Training, Adult Education, Vocational and Workplace Training, and a Master of Education degree in Career Development. Dave is a professional member of the Career Development Association of Australia, and you can learn more about Dave’s work at www.davebrebner.com.
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