With the present situation in the world, we must decide, more than usual, how we will strengthen our own foundations.
Who are you right now? Who do you want to be? What strengths can you share to help your family, community and country right now?
The time is right to pause now. Reflect and choose a path to do your best each day. Also, we can cut everyone some slack, including ourselves.
I know for myself, there are times I look back and wish I had acted more like the self I aim to be. Times when I have acted abruptly when I was under pressure and the wrong person did the wrong thing at just the wrong time. The pin on the grenade was pulled. I look back on those times with regret when I was not who I wanted to be.
We all do it and now we all have to be more kind to others and especially kind to ourselves. We are not perfect, we all have faults and failings.
So, this week I stopped myself and I paused. My valuable hours, minutes and seconds were actively spent trying to avoid the negative and focusing my concentration on the positive. I sharpened my focus on supporting my family, my community and looking for solutions.
In my initial stage of reflection, a friend pointed out a new point of view. He told me to concentrate on doing good in tough times and by doing so, I could not be doing harm or making the situation worse.
Neurologically this stacks up.
There are now studies that show that our brains build neuro pathways and actually physically change as we re-enforce emotions and express great passion about different things.
The brain doesn’t understand a negative order. It just gravitates towards the dominant thought regardless of our desires. This is a time and opportunity in the world to build community and to reach out to touch the lives of those who we have not touched before.
‘Circumstance does not make the man; it reveals him (to himself).’
As this present challenge terrorises the world, let us all work to terrorise ignorance, selfishness and self-importance. This could be an amazing opportunity to build bridges, restore relationships and build the communities we hope for.
This tells us to start helping where we are. Today! We have several newborns in our street and each of us living in Australia knows the restrictions to get to the stores at this time. With this in mind, I have picked up one packet of baby wipes each time I visited the supermarket. My family and I drop them off at the doors and just let them know we are here for them and ‘notice’ them.
We are seeing heroes daily in our emergency services, our health workers, our cleaners, teachers and public services. People who have shown that this is not just a job for them, but a calling on their lives to serve those in need.
There is a prayer which was attributed to Francis of Assisi and it is, regardless of our spiritual leanings, a great reference point to give to ourselves and others as we keep getting back up.
It is my hope that as we pull together we will one day remember the great things, some of them just small things, that we did for each other in this time, that meant so much.
This week, do something radical, push out and reach out. Don’t just do what is expected. Do a random act of kindness that will leave someone reeling with surprise.
Let’s be heroes in our neighbourhoods and to our friends and loved ones. Most of all, let’s be heroes to those who need our help.
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Dave is an Adult Educator, Speaker and Youth leader living in Western Sydney, Australia. He has Diplomas in Business and Training, a Bachelors Degree in Adult Education, Vocational and Workplace Training and a Masters of Education with a major in Career Development. He has lived with Tourette’s Syndrome, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and Anxiety Disorders since an early age, you can read his story online. He is married with 6 children. He is a passionate coach and mentor to young people especially in the vocational guidance and career development areas. Dave is a professional member of the Career Development Association of Australia and has authored a course on Living with Tourette’s which you can study and purchase online through his website – www.davebrebner.com.